Don’t let those commercials and cheesy movies to fool you, it takes way more than an ice cream casserole to get over a painful separation
Moving on and putting yourself together after such a traumatic experience it’s a process in the purest sense of the word and psychologists compare this period with a mourning.
Although a few weeks after the separation occurred everything seems hopeless, you should keep in mind one thing: there is a light at the end of the tunnel, but the pain is so intense, it almost blinds you and you will not be able to see it, until you start looking at things a little bit clearer.
The most important thing is to avoid becoming a pessimist. Try to encourage yourself that everything is going to be just fine and you will that once the page is turned, everything will take a new and brighter turn. Until then, I am taking the liberty of suggesting a few “harmless” tips, which I am pretty sure it will alleviate the pain and match to your situation perfectly.
Moreover, one of these might become a “lifesaver”, because sometimes the salvation comes from an unpredictable place.
Best Ways to Get Over a Breakup
First of All, Start by Acknowledging Everything between You and Your Ex-partner it’s Over
If you’re constantly thinking about the “what if?” situation, it’s time for you to stop. Try to skip those cliché break-up phases, such as denial or depression.
The sooner you accept what’s going on, the sooner you will get it together. Start by avoiding those places you and your ex used to frequent, stop listening to your favorite jams and, start staring at those cute, lovely heart-shaped objects and get rid of them as soon as possible if you ever want to start over, because they will do nothing but harm you even more, especially if you were the dumped one.
(Sifting through the past, will do nothing but prolong the pain)
Learn from Your Mistakes
Try to reminisce only the beautiful moments from your past relationship. Label the quarrels and the fights as lessons and, most importantly: don’t try to get revenge.
Beating your ex-boyfriend up will not make you feel better, on the contrary. In case you were the one who repeatedly found excuses, it’s important to look at your past relationship as a balance sheet and struggle to avoid those missteps in the future.
Balance your Emotions
It’s perfectly normal to think about those you will miss about him or her, after a painful break-up.
However, make sure you also spend time analyzing those parts of your past relationship that you will not miss at all because they will help you realize that you haven’t lost anything.
Always Rely on Your Family and Close Friends
Overcome this episode by building a stronger bond with your closest ones. Instead of going out with the same people you used to hang out when you were with your ex, you better start focusing on those who have the power to make you forget about him for a moment.
Set New #Goals!
Considering a closed door will always a new one, take advantage of this nasty episode to focus your extra energy and attention on new hobbies and plans.
As a long-term solution, try getting involved in projects that you have abandoned when you were with him/her. Not only that you will rediscover old hobbies, but you will also have a funnier life.
Hit the Gym!
We all are familiar with how working up a sweat can release some serious endorphins — Believe me! it’s almost like releasing your feelings. So, hit the gym and work it out. If you have busy schedule, you can setup your own home gym, just get some dumbbells, a pretty small treadmill for running and start working out at home.
Allow Yourself to Cry
If you didn’t have a moment to process this, then it’s probably time release those repressed emotions. Crying is the best method to release your emotions and there’s nothing shameful about it.
Think Twice Before Entering into a “Rebound”
It’s better for you to not transform “the best way to forget a former boyfriend is to replace him with another one” saying into your motto. Starting another relationship is tempting, especially if you are the kind of person who is always involved in a relationship.
It’s better to heal and to spend a little bit your time with yourself instead of experiencing another heartbreak in a short period of time.
Therefore, a break-up will always be painful, regardless of who adopts the decision to move on. Statistically speaking, each one of us experience a few breakups in life before they find their better half.